Puzzledandpissedoff on Mumsnet explained about the wedding message they got, asking people to “please help me, what the hell do I say??”
I recently attended an ex-colleague’s wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can’t help feeling it shouldn’t)
Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they’d all been, then said “we were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received”
For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I’ll mention that “your own position” probably refers to a recent inheritance I’ve had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)
Please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it – but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??
The responses from other users were quite brilliant:
Rudest thing ive ever heard
Please cancel cheque and buy us all cakes
My adjustment would be cancelling the cheque! Cheeky bastards!
OMFG. That is extraordinary. I would cancel the cheque if not too late, donate the £100 to charity and send them a screenshot of the donation.
Adele on in the comments on the Metro had a brilliant idea:
I’d have sent them a glitter bomb with a note enclosed reading “I hope this glitter reflects the good wishes I gave on the day. The cheque has been cancelled as you’re clearly not entitled to my perfectly adequate gift. Instead here is some advice: when someone gives you a gift, big or small, ne grateful. It’s the thought that counts.”
OP then came back with what she ended up doing:
Apologies if I miss any questions – I didn’t know so many of you would be kind enough to reply
I could certainly ask around to find if anyone else has had similar, but am not entirely sure what it would solve? We could hardly start some sort of “mass objection” and if it’s happened they’ll just have to decide for themselves what to do; after all not everyone knows about the wisdom of MN!!
It’s unlikely I’ll bump into the B&G much in future as I’m retired now, which is probably just as well. However I’ve just replied to her email with one sentence:
“I assume this was some sort of mistake?”